The “I Hate Women” Player would Love Tindr

“Primates which have never loved early, never love late.” – H.F. Harlow

This one is the most dangerous to watch out for because he has the ability to do the most damage to you! If you’re used to men always hitting on you, this one has a lot of appeal because he’s the one that is “emotionally unavailable.” He instantly becomes a challenge to you. He’s not like all the other guys or so you think! He doesn’t give me the time of day! And the game is afoot! You feel that his aloof nature is simply him playing hard to get. What you don’t realize is that he’s not playing hard to get, he’s simply emotionally detached, and doesn’t like women. Sure he’ll take you for a “spin around the block” but the damage to your heart and soul may take years to repair.
A friend of mine, I’ll call him James is the stereotypical I Hate Women Player. He’s a great guy. Smart, funny, handsome, but he’s got one serious demon lurking in his past. When he was six years old, his drug addicted mother put him up for adoption. He spent the next 12 years of his life bouncing from one abusive foster home to another. As soon has he turned 18 he went out on his own, but the scars of being abandoned by his mother still haunt him. He’s now forty and still single.
This type of Player loves apps like Tindr because it makes it easy for him to find women to hook up with without having to invest anything in her emotionally. He knows it’s a numbers game, so he swipes right enough times and a few women will respond. He doesn’t need a lot of matches in order for him to get laid on a regular basis.
Avoid this Player at all costs. You CAN NOT heal him!

Mr. Bigger, Better Deal a.k.a The BBD Player:

The BBD Player is a close cousin to the Perpetual Child. He sees life as a nonstop stop game of one up man ship. “Can I find a hotter girl? Can I find a younger girl? Can I find a freakier girl in the bedroom? His problem is based on the fact that he has unrealistic expectations of finding what he feels would be the ideal woman. Of course, he’s never going to find her because she doesn’t exist, but that doesn’t stop him from blowing through girl, after girl in this endless search. Inevitably, a relationship with him is short lived because he will start making up reasons to criticize you so he can pick fights with you. During this time, he will be actively courting one or more women that he feels may reach is very high (yet unrealistic ideals) BBD Players end up being the creepy old guy at the club, because he doesn’t realize that he’s way past his expiration date, and still thinks he can hook up with the young hotties.

Your Desires, Cravings and Needs Are His Tools to Seduce You

Once he knows what your deepest desires are, he can then present himself as if you can get those needs completely fulfilled if you go out with him. Some Players will deliver immediately on their promise to fulfill your desires, while others will string you along for the entire duration of your relationship. He’ll keep letting you think that “it’s just around the corner babe. Hang in there.” Of course you wait and wait and he never delivers.
Let me pause now for a moment to point out an important distinction. There ARE men out there who TRULY want to give you the WORLD. They will go to Hell and back for you because they love you that much. So give these guys some credit, and time to make things happen. So, how do you tell the difference between a man that actually wants to fulfill your desires, versus a Player that is just stringing you along? One word: ACTIONS! The sincere man will be doing something that you can see, to fulfill your desires. A Player, will talk, and talk, and talk, and never lift a finger.
Don’t underestimate the power of this tactic. Politicians get elected time and time again by promising their constituents whatever they want. Of course they never fulfill ANY of the desires of their electorate, yet people still fall for the games, deceit and lies. Why? Because we can easily become blinded by our emotions when we deeply want something.
The best antidote to keep a Player from using your desires to manipulate you is to be so complete as a woman, that you don’t NEED him to help you get anything. If you desire financial security, learn what it takes to create multiple streams of income. If you desire Love, surround yourself with loving healthy people that help fulfill part of that desire. Of course, the love of friends, family, and even a pet isn’t the same as the love of a man that you’re in a committed relationship with, however, having SOME love in your life will make you less likely to get used and abused.
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